One of the things that drew me to my husband Chuck is his skill as a photographer. We share a love of photography, and he has shared with me so many tips to improve the quality of my images. One of the lessons I've learned is about focus. Determining the focal point when setting up a picture can make the difference in capturing a great image or just a so-so shot.
There was a time when I appreciated shooting a picture that wasn't blurry, but now I want more than that. I want a strong focal point in my picture, and I prefer to have the other elements softly focused.
Life is like this, for me. I used to be just grateful if things didn't feel like they were falling apart. I would have lists of things to do, without prioritizing what I wanted to get done, and just start plowing through tasks. At the end of the week, I would wonder where all of my time went, and sometimes I was sad to realize I'd missed out on some of the more important things.
My priorities have shifted, and there is more time for me to consider what is truly important.
Our parents and siblings.
People over things, I constantly remind myself. Chuck has helped me focus on people, and I am not talking about portraits. I'm talking about keeping life in perspective, and putting less emphasis on the stuff that can clutter our lives.
When friends and family come to visit, and I start fretting about making the house presentable, or what we will eat, he reminds me that the people visiting aren't coming to see the house, and are not concerned about the food. They are coming to spend time with us.
It is too easy for me to stress about cleaning the house, and trying to hide the fact that we actually live in our home. Not only do I want every floor mopped or vacuumed, and all traces of dust removed, but I will double check to ensure there is no trace of trash in the waste basket. Who does that? Do I really think people will think less of me for not disposing of that one wadded up tissue?
People over things is a good mantra for me, whenever I feel stressed. I love people. Stuff is pretty much the source of my anxiety. Basic sanitation is always a good idea, but beyond that, none of our guests are coming for the purpose of a white glove inspection. Thank goodness.
When I look back at the big picture of my life, I want to see that I captured a great image, not a so-so shot. To have good memories, I need to focus on the people, so that the things around them blur softly, and are not the focal point, which is just the way they should be.
Several of my friends are doing the blogging challenge with me. We have quite a variety in our group. If you enjoy intelligent, witty, thought-provoking writing, trust me; you'll love the way these powerful women write.
The Vast and Inscrutable Imponderabilities of Life by Antonia
Writing the Life Chaotic by Deb
Faith, Hope, Laughter...and Happily Ever After by Laura
Pushing the Bruise by Ros
Creative writing by Valerie