tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post8688887556524825306..comments2024-02-24T02:52:28.237-06:00Comments on The Bees’ RV: A Table for OneRandomocityhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11871574168607613060noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-76983114871127806682014-05-02T08:38:41.830-05:002014-05-02T08:38:41.830-05:00Yes, I spent a lot of time alone in my marriages, ...Yes, I spent a lot of time alone in my marriages, but it's different now. There's no sleeping man in the next room, no man to come home from work. The possibilities are more limited, but in reality, there is a freedom in knowing that I can do what I want with my time. I have no one to blame but myself with how my days play out now. Oh, Shelley, I would LOVE to sit on the beach, but for now, I will just have to enjoy walking through the canyons and deserts here.Randomocityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11871574168607613060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-15002510663349138052014-05-02T08:36:42.303-05:002014-05-02T08:36:42.303-05:00Carol, I still feel like I'm swimming in them....Carol, I still feel like I'm swimming in them. I'm getting better, though...Randomocityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11871574168607613060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-10058836251557222522014-05-02T08:36:15.440-05:002014-05-02T08:36:15.440-05:00Okay, Iris, I will tuck my book DARING GREATLY und...Okay, Iris, I will tuck my book DARING GREATLY under my arm, and push my way past my fears. I will try this. And oh, I hope it's a funny story, and not a sad one, I'll have to tell!Randomocityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11871574168607613060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-63033973462432980802014-05-02T08:35:21.230-05:002014-05-02T08:35:21.230-05:00Deb, I wish we had a coffee shop in this rural tow...Deb, I wish we had a coffee shop in this rural town. We do have small diners; perhaps I will start there. Kind of excited. I don't know if The Cowboy Corral is ready for my single, female presence, but it may be just the place to try! ;-)Randomocityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11871574168607613060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-6370636684580757262014-05-02T08:34:02.270-05:002014-05-02T08:34:02.270-05:00If dining alone fosters feelings of bravery, it...If dining alone fosters feelings of bravery, it's high-time I try it! I do think I have felt "shame" in my singleness because I think I felt sorry for people in my situation in the past. They don't need my sympathy, they need my empathy, and honestly, I now look at them as role models, not people who need my condolences! Thanks, Tonia, for giving me food for thought.Randomocityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11871574168607613060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-29722547728123821012014-05-02T05:40:50.149-05:002014-05-02T05:40:50.149-05:00Days when I don't work and my husband is gone ...Days when I don't work and my husband is gone is my alone time. I'm free to do whatever I want - go to the show, eat alone, sit on the beach. Usually, it's just to stay at home to read and write. But, there may be a time in the future when I'm really alone. I'm sure my perspective will change some.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02753783217683635257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-37559079357009767222014-05-02T05:07:37.070-05:002014-05-02T05:07:37.070-05:00Good for you conquering your fears!! Good for you conquering your fears!! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03005835560680376589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-28250232282743919722014-05-02T00:53:13.514-05:002014-05-02T00:53:13.514-05:00It's not as scary as you think, and I *know* y...It's not as scary as you think, and I *know* you can do it and feel great doing it! I've eaten countless number of meals at restaurants by myself, and having a good book with you certainly makes it easier to do. However you decide to do it, I know you'll embrace the challenge and have a funny story to tell about it on the other side. :)Irishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14018167923936439584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-21286521514198167062014-05-01T23:02:03.719-05:002014-05-01T23:02:03.719-05:00As a singleton of many years, I still don't th...As a singleton of many years, I still don't think I'd be comfortable going to a fancy restaurant or theatre on a Saturday night by myself, but otherwise I generally don't think twice. Start with a coffee shop or local diner, take your laptop or notebook (it looks very intentional - ha) and even go at odd hours when fewer people are there if it's easier. You'll find that many go alone to these places to work and write. And you can eavesdrop for more material : )Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14831958648236444729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-52838979844001856642014-05-01T22:39:03.461-05:002014-05-01T22:39:03.461-05:00Denise, you make a great point. I've probably ...Denise, you make a great point. I've probably been alone more married (due to husband's travel/work schedule) than I would have expected, though long before that, my dad taught me to go places alone from time to time and modeled this behavior. Maybe it's a writer thing that he taught me like dining alone from time to time. It makes me feel brave and independent. Dawn makes a great point that others are usually so wrapped up in what they are doing to notice what you are doing.<br /><br />That said, there is a certain shame some people attach to being along, a shame we should resist I think in the interests of honoring the real lives of real people. I feel for you. It is strange to get used to it in the beginning.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03388078842848310409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-29512734688963135372014-05-01T22:27:55.523-05:002014-05-01T22:27:55.523-05:00Dawn, I have always lived in fear of being along, ...Dawn, I have always lived in fear of being along, and now that I am "living to tell about the experience," many of my fears are unfounded. My ex-husband and I waver between relishing our new-found freedom, to feeling overwhelmed by the loneliness at times. Things will settle out, and while they do, I intend to live it up a little, in a solitary way.Randomocityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11871574168607613060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-43428025191815557902014-05-01T21:58:49.477-05:002014-05-01T21:58:49.477-05:00I was never a fan of being alone, and yet I have s...I was never a fan of being alone, and yet I have spent a great deal of time the last four and half years alone while the hubby works. I have learned by doing it that it's really not a big deal to go out by yourself, once you've done it a few times. Now, I thoroughly enjoy a lunch date with myself, I can write to my hearts' content while I pick at my salad, or simply surf Facebook uninterrupted, without any recriminations! And honestly, people really don't pay that much attention to whether YOU are alone or not, they are usually too wrapped up in their own lives to notice! Dawn Larie Michelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09909310075613557600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-73781165712801796952014-05-01T21:45:32.363-05:002014-05-01T21:45:32.363-05:00Thank you for your encouragement. I am going to se...Thank you for your encouragement. I am going to set some small goals this week...a meal out...a hike...I hope being with my dog counts. I finally get to spend two weeks with him while my ex is out of town!Randomocityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11871574168607613060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-12844650034312833022014-05-01T21:44:19.518-05:002014-05-01T21:44:19.518-05:00Julie, I did not realize you had nine children. I ...Julie, I did not realize you had nine children. I think my mom, who raised eight of us, cherished every moment of the school day when she had the house to herself! Thank you for your tip!Randomocityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11871574168607613060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-66069062129756295592014-05-01T21:43:14.175-05:002014-05-01T21:43:14.175-05:00Amy, I am going to pursue solitary moments intenti...Amy, I am going to pursue solitary moments intentionally this next week. Thank you for your encouragement!Randomocityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11871574168607613060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-83194568921564916102014-05-01T18:10:50.679-05:002014-05-01T18:10:50.679-05:00I take book and read while eating. I have a way of...I take book and read while eating. I have a way of being in a bubble where it's just me and my book and my food. I'm friendly to the waitress and smiLe at the people around me and I enjoy the evening. I rarely have this opportunity but I welcome it when it comes. So enjoy being alone in public. You are in good company. Sharybaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05664090073774013402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-21557533766350102472014-05-01T09:17:37.706-05:002014-05-01T09:17:37.706-05:00I love going to movies alone. As a mom of nine, I ...I love going to movies alone. As a mom of nine, I once spent an entire week going to one movie per day as an escape/sanity break. When I go alone, I find it best to go to a late morning or early afternoon show on a weekday. I don't feel so "conspicuously dateless" then. I do see a lot of senior citizens, however!Julie Yhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02412877288589970249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-19757963913029046102014-05-01T08:24:32.522-05:002014-05-01T08:24:32.522-05:00Denise -
Great post. I am one of those who have go...Denise -<br />Great post. I am one of those who have gone to a movie alone - once! Its kind of nice - but sad too, especially when you have always been with someone. But I am getting better at the solitude. My niece brakes it up on the weekends - the rest of the time is mine. Enjoy you table for one when you finally try it out - it isn't a bad thing for sure.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09070957984614610358noreply@blogger.com