tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post8663724032961183075..comments2024-02-24T02:52:28.237-06:00Comments on The Bees’ RV: Was Thumper Wrong?Randomocityhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11871574168607613060noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-86734041326659005762014-04-27T21:37:13.481-05:002014-04-27T21:37:13.481-05:00Deb, thank you. It is an ongoing learning process,...Deb, thank you. It is an ongoing learning process, isn't it? You are always so positive in your comments; I appreciate the time you take to write them.Randomocityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11871574168607613060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-18686490978518745712014-04-25T21:48:51.924-05:002014-04-25T21:48:51.924-05:00This is one of my favorite posts of yours - so wel...This is one of my favorite posts of yours - so well said. I've spent most of my adult years trying to unlearn this one. It gets easier with practice, but it's sometimes still a struggle to state my opinion rather than just "shut up" to keep peace. Honestly, your writing always gives readers that "yeah, me too" feeling. Love it.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14831958648236444729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-27148886925008135012014-04-25T19:30:42.434-05:002014-04-25T19:30:42.434-05:00Moderation is one of those "unexplored fronti...Moderation is one of those "unexplored frontiers" for me. All or none seems to be my way. I will continue to work on this!Randomocityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11871574168607613060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-76508666746967854972014-04-25T19:30:02.364-05:002014-04-25T19:30:02.364-05:00You mention something that always worries me. I li...You mention something that always worries me. I like being liked. I don't even know how to act when someone reacts negatively toward me. Not internalizing the words of others is something I continue to battle.Randomocityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11871574168607613060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-51377666705268349392014-04-25T19:28:24.549-05:002014-04-25T19:28:24.549-05:00What a wonderful memory with your dad. Thank you, ...What a wonderful memory with your dad. Thank you, Linda, for all of your support.Randomocityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11871574168607613060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-16717096457206464382014-04-25T09:51:48.510-05:002014-04-25T09:51:48.510-05:00I love this post. I loved Thumper too and still th...I love this post. I loved Thumper too and still think there is much to be said for his advice though it can be carried too far and like you, I carried it to an extreme. I like your "new and improved" advice form Thumper. Works for me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03388078842848310409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-86348814268948982142014-04-25T09:40:14.836-05:002014-04-25T09:40:14.836-05:00Love the title. Helps me to understand something ...Love the title. Helps me to understand something about myself as I couldn't understand why I always "felt" mean - even though I wasn't. I haven't struggled with expressing myself, the issue was others' responses. Being honest doesn't mean popularity. I continue to work at not internalizing others' responses to my "polite" expressions of honesty. By the way, I am not perfect. I do blow it too - especially with my husband and kids!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02267592889907682613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-78428554973013110742014-04-25T07:44:57.779-05:002014-04-25T07:44:57.779-05:00Your last comment reminded me of my last real conv...Your last comment reminded me of my last real conversation with my dad. In his dementia, though I was 54, he was seeing me as a bout a 9 year old girl, the age of my niece Michaela who was a part of our conversation. At one point he said, "You, know, I think you are one of the smartest girls I know." "I'll try to use it for good," I answered. "See that you do," was his replay.<br /><br />From what I have read from you or from interactions I have had with you on here, I think you will find that way to use it for good.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-58232198897459436192013-07-30T19:00:26.211-05:002013-07-30T19:00:26.211-05:00Ashley, I need to take a page out of your book. I...Ashley, I need to take a page out of your book. I know you're right about it being hard temporarily...I need to realize the payoff will be worth it in the long run. Thanks for taking the time to share your experiences with me.Randomocityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11871574168607613060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-31875172017230315472013-07-30T02:32:28.874-05:002013-07-30T02:32:28.874-05:00When I first started my nursing job at Stonehenge,...When I first started my nursing job at Stonehenge, I had a heck of a time with some of the nurses. The famous saying, "nurses eat their young", 100% True. Nurses can be mean, they hate new blood, and if they want to, they can make you hate your job, even if it's one you really love. <br /><br />I started out as the quiet one (weird, I know). Taking orders from some of the more "seasoned" nurses, doing what everyone asked all the time. I realized that some people honestly just want to make others miserable. When I finally started standing up for myself, I was SO much happier at my job. If I had a problem with someone, I told them face to face. If a doctor treated me like crap on the phone, I spoke my opinion whether they agreed or not(that was a hard one to master, but they sometimes have an unrealistic "God Complex" and need to be brought back to reality). <br /><br />We are totally different in this way, you've known me basically my whole life, I've always been loud, strong willed, outspoken, at times I stick my foot in my mouth... lol. But I always speak what's on my mind. I'm one of those people who would rather hit conflict head on and get it over with right away then let the unknown, stay unknown. If I have a problem with someone or something. I simply call out the situation. Is it uncomfortable and scary? dang right it is, but in the end, it seems to diffuse the situation much faster than avoiding. :) <3 <3Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11388445980744340961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-85259661944847768092013-06-29T19:14:27.946-05:002013-06-29T19:14:27.946-05:00I definitely get ugly...I think maybe its a little...I definitely get ugly...I think maybe its a little of both. Sometimes silence may not be golden but is better; and then other times whats pushing at the back of your throat trying to get out needs to get out. So there is no simple "One" answer its a case by case basis maybe. <br /><br />And there is nothing wrong with standing up and saying something and then only walk away if all they want to do is fight. Say...I am more than willing to talk about this with you but you don't want to talk you want to conquer so come back when you are ready to have a civilized discussion--you know where I'll be. Then smile.<br /><br />Of course all this is because I have a minute (or 60) to think about it.Noellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02886562906918537655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-69882601012729642912013-06-29T14:37:03.162-05:002013-06-29T14:37:03.162-05:00Neither Jesus nor the Dalai Lama would remain sile...Neither Jesus nor the Dalai Lama would remain silent when words need to be spoken. Denise, you have a right to your voice...it's ok to own it. You need to take care of you. Letting ANYONE treat you unkindly is less than you deserve. You are definitely one of the kindest, good-hearted, and wisest people I know. If a friend was posing this same scenario to you, in all honesty what would your advice be? Think about it and do what you'd advice your dearest, closest friend or sister.SuziCatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10889140153791941165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-24645155804017934302013-06-29T14:10:55.302-05:002013-06-29T14:10:55.302-05:00Oh, yes, Noelle, I have brilliant responses the NE...Oh, yes, Noelle, I have brilliant responses the NEXT day. I would like to make my point AND be polite at the same time. Usually, I think I come off as thinking I'm "all that." When I get defensive, I get ugly, so I generally prefer silence. Is it golden? I'm thinking NOT.Randomocityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11871574168607613060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-46525236208206075502013-06-29T14:09:09.820-05:002013-06-29T14:09:09.820-05:00Isn't there some general response that would d...Isn't there some general response that would defuse the situation? "I realize we may not be seeing eye-t0-eye, now will you excuse me while I run away?" There must be something peaceful, something kind. WWJD? What WOULD Jesus do, indeed? Or the Dalai Lama? My concern with them is that I'm not exactly an authority figure on the subject of handling awkward situations, and if I borrowed either of their words, it would seem ridiculous! Thanks for your input. I just need to be more careful about when I speak, and when I'm silent.Randomocityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11871574168607613060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-53908967465330767192013-06-29T13:45:01.154-05:002013-06-29T13:45:01.154-05:00Wow!! Now for something profound (but not from me...Wow!! Now for something profound (but not from me); I'm either to dumbfounded and just stand there (and think of something wonderful later) or I go totally inappropriate and make things worse.<br /><br />Although, if you have something to say on "said" subject go ahead and say it but just don't loose control. Or as you stated before, you DON'T have to take that abuse..."Thank you but no Thank you" and walk awayNoellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02886562906918537655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-435639598621055127.post-55709830662728278352013-06-29T12:21:45.556-05:002013-06-29T12:21:45.556-05:00Oh Denies, my mama taught me the same thing. I'...Oh Denies, my mama taught me the same thing. I'm very much like you on the silence part, however I am getting better at self preservation. When it comes to hurting people we may choose to remain silent, but when remaining silent hurts ourselves it's time to speak up. You know I got your back...sending you positive healing energy!SuziCatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10889140153791941165noreply@blogger.com